Child of Divorce, Child of God

September 3, 2008

From the 9 Marks blogsite:

“I don’t know about you, but I don’t talk a lot about divorce. Sure, when it comes up in a text I preach about it. When I do pre-marital counseling, I warn against it. Occasionally I’ll get a question from a church member trying to understand the Bible’s teaching about it.

But even in a congregation where only a few members are actually divorced from their spouse, divorce has left it’s fingerprints all over. Why? Because so many in our midst are the adult children of divorced parents.


The challenges that face adult “children of divorce” are many. There are obvious emotional wounds, some struggle with fears about their own marriages, others have difficulty trusting in God as their Father when home life hasn’t seemed safe and stable.

As I thought about it, I realized that I really hadn’t given the matter too much pastoral thought and I didn’t have a ton of insight in the issue.

With that said, I want to plug a new book that just came out from IVP. Child of Divorce, Child of God is an excellent resource. Kristine Steakley* is a child of divorce and a faithful follower of Christ, and she has written this book in order to bring hope and healing to those who have been wounded by divorce.

Two things commend this book:

1. First, the author is very sensitive to the particular struggles that plague adults (and children) with divorced parents. The book is full of personal testimonies and reflections by the author that shed light on the difficulties that this group faces. I found that very helpful pastorally as I seek to love and care for those who have suffered with divorce in their family.

2. Second, the author is very clear on the sovereignty of God. There wouldn’t be much hope if the book simply wallowed in the bad news. But the good news is that God is sovereign over suffering and he promises to make all things new. Readers are urged to reflect of God’s character, trust Him, forgive those who have wronged them, and flee to Christ.

If this is an issue in your church or in your life, you’ll find Child of Divorce, Child of God very helpful.


*full disclosure: Kristine is a member of the church I pastor. But if the book wasn’t good, I wouldn’t recommend it.”

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